Love does not last when it is too much asked to last, unaware that what one seeks in it is already in oneself.
What causes desire is not something that needs to be attained outside oneself.
Subjectivity is already itself the lack that causes desire. If one is set on a search for lovers and outside objects one should not expect them to fill in one’s lack.
This ensures that one will be in desire but not too torn by desire. We find already within, in us as our own cause, a rest for the restlessness that is caused from within.”